All your Perfects by Colleen Hoover

All your Perfects by Colleen Hoover


I just finished reading this book today and I must say I was floored. It wasn’t what I expected. I honestly expected the usual love at first sight whirlwind romance that I’m used to reading everywhere. But when I saw myself highlighting words that were so relatable I knew that this book was different.

It started with Quinn finding out her boyfriend of 4 years, Ethan, cheating on her with the girlfriend of this guy she just met in the hallway (Graham). The funniest way to meet a person.

Six months later, they are meeting in a restaurant on a date with different people. Is this Fate?
For me, I love Graham so much because he knew what he wanted. He wasn’t perfect but he loved with a passion almost too good to be true. My favorite quote from him, I think everything he said was my favorite cause that man was a poet 😍

He told Quinn “When you meet someone who is good for you, they won’t fill you with insecurities by focusing on your flaws. They’ll fill you with inspiration, because they’ll focus on all the best parts of you”

I’m taking this word to heart ♥️ 

That’s not even the best thing I admired in this novel, I admired their marriage because when the going got tough, it was a wooden box that saved their marriage. And I know that after reading this book if I’m getting married I must do my own.

I’m sure you must be wondering what this weather category 5 problem was. I’ll tell you. She was infertile. And they had been trying for 5 years, they tried IVF, IUI and those procedures ain’t cheap. And each time they failed.

Before you say it, they also tried adoption but a mistake in Graham’s past made them not eligible for that. She was depressed cause she felt as though she had failed and it was all her fault that Graham would never get to be a father. And like that, the marriage was falling apart.

Then Graham cheated on her by kissing someone else in his workplace. I know right, so unlike Graham.

I’m not excusing his behavior at all but I appreciate that he didn’t start throwing blame but took responsibility for his actions.

I admired this statement Quinn made “I wouldn’t do that. I’m not mad at Andrea (#the affair woman). She’s not the one who made a commitment to me. She has no loyalty to me or I to her. I’m only mad at one person in this scenario and that is my husband.”

She said this after she felt that Graham must have assumed that she went to his office to beat the woman up. I don’t know what you think about it, but to me, it was a relief cause I get so mad when a wife beats up another woman because she slept with your husband. But she’s not the one that made a commitment, so why are you taking out your anger on the wrong person. If it wasn’t her, then there will be another woman.

Throughout this very trying time, I noticed that it’s the little things left unsaid that made all the difference. They stopped communicating, she chose to bottle all her desperation, fears, everything to herself. She gave up, she lost hope.

The importance of communication cannot be understated, and I’m learning to do just that in my relationships with people. It prevents you from building resentment.

So back to the wooden box, the holy grail in this situation. After their simple beach wedding, he wrote a love letter to her and her to him that they would keep till their 25th anniversary unless a relationship emergency came up…..divorce! The cutest thing was that throughout the marriage he kept adding more letters that said what he wanted to say when he couldn’t.

I’m sure by now you’d be like….in the end they’d have a child. Nope, that didn’t happen. A ruptured cervical ectopic pregnancy made sure of that.  She bleeds so bad they had to do a hysterectomy (they removed her bloody uterus…pun intended) 

She was devastated, I was devastated. There ain’t no chance of miracle baby happening now 😭

In the final moments, they had to open the box cause this problem was weather category 6 and so she read the letters. I was also reading the letter. I cried eh and I’m even tearing up thinking of the letter. See, don’t read this book in public (heed my advice).
For someone that said he’s not good at writing eh, he managed to leave me in a ball of tears. The letter was long and I cannot copy and paste everything here so go and read the book but this line got me “I promise to love you more as a childless woman than I would love you as a mother.”

And I believe that this letter reminded her that there was more to her marriage and life than having a baby. Graham was enough and she didn’t need a baby to feel accomplished.
She was focusing on the flaw that she had…infertility until it became all she could see.

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That’s all for today.
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  1. Chikaodili says:

    I want to say I am very impressed by you. You got to do something I have always wanted to do but never got around to, ie writing about the books I have read. And believe me I have read a lot!!. To cap it all, Collen Hoover is one of my favourite authors . You should check out the Slammed series, Never never and Hopeless, both a series. You probably might shed some tears too. I will definitely give this book a try. Keep it up

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